Friday, May 3, 2013

Pornography Wreaking Havoc on Marriage

Shhhh. We don’t talk about that.
Well today, we are.

Pornography. It’s a dirty little secret that no one admits to viewing, but the industry is booming. Someone’s looking.

Every second over $3000 is being spent on pornography. Do you know what I could do with $3000? A LOT!  Every second over 28,000 viewing it and every 39 seconds a pornographic video is being created in the US. Good grief, that's insane!

It’s no secret that the divorce rate is right at 50%. One of the biggest reasons for divorce, under adultery, and financial problems, is addictions; the most common of which are alcohol and pornography. Pornography is literally killing our marriages.

Let me get real honest with my married women readers, especially my Military Wife readers. It is NOT okay for you or your husband to be viewing pornography, nor is it okay for you to send your husband pornography while he is deployed, overseas, on a business trip etc.

                                                                           View my thoughts on 50 Shades of Grey.

I've heard women tell me, “Well, at least he’s not cheating.” Um, how is he NOT cheating?  If your spouse is getting sexual gratification from someone other than you, it’s cheating.

I've heard women say, “Well, he’s deployed. It’s difficult for him to go without sex that long. I can’t expect him not to look when pornography is everywhere.” Why is ‘not looking’ such a high expectation for your husband? Yes, it has to be difficult for our husbands to go without sex for that long. It’s no joy ride on our end either. However, to keep our marriage strong, and to protect our spouse from spiraling out of control, because pornography isn't an innocent little problem, refraining from pornography doesn't seem too much to ask.

Why not solve his dilemma by sending photos of yourself . Yes, I totally said that. No matter how awful you think you look naked, your husband loves you, and your body. Just want to clarify--do not send pictures via a military email address. Just needed to cover that. :)

Take pictures. He’ll thank you.

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Study after study proves the negative effects of viewing pornography. It’s said to be a stronger addiction than cocaine. It diminishes real sex, and replaces it with some warped version of  what God meant it to be between a husband and wife. Viewers have reported devaluing their spouse  after looking at pornography. Because who of us can compete with some young chick with a photo-shopped image? It also desensitizes the viewer to sex to the point where he/she can become bored with their spouse, sex in general, and seek more graphic images in order to get that thrill they are looking for. Can we say, "Hello, Ted Bundy?" None of those things are beneficial for marriage, or mental health.  

Stay away from porn my friends. God says to “be holy, because I am holy (1 peter 1:16).” There is nothing holy about pornography.



  1. Well said!!! I love this because I completely agree with you on every single level. :-)

    1. Thank you very much! :) Thanks for reading! :)

  2. Hannah, I love you. I hope you know that.

    I cannot, however, encourage women to send images of themselves to their deployed men. Here's why:

    I am in the military. I am an IT, which is basically the same thing in the civilian world. I handle computers, the server, the phones, and most importantly... your (any deployed woman's) email. DO NOT SEND PHOTOS to a military email address.

    Part of my job is to monitor what comes in and out. IF I see a pornographic image, that man's wife or not, I am REQUIRED to go to their command. Because there are other women in the field, the viewing of any pornographic image on a government machine falls under sexual harassment. The fact that I, a female, am exposed to the image due to your husband's viewing, is sexual harassment (not to mention there are now so many wives that I just cannot greet without being haunted by the visual).

    I'm sure you know that's not a mark that doesn't do damage on a person's career... and it doesn't go away.

    I beg you to clarify with your readers that you do not mean to send images digitally. Once every deployment a wife inevitably does this, and once every patrol I see a career damaged due to that mistake.

    Part of supporting your husband is to not endanger his career - even if he asks you to email him a photo of you in the sexy new outfit.

    1. I know you love me, :) I love you too! :) Thanks for reading, and taking the time to share your perspective. :) I appreciate your viewpoint. I too would agree sending photos via a military email address would not be wise, and I will clarify. :)However, I still say I'd rather my hubby look at me than someone else. :)

  3. I totally agree with you Hannah. Except I'm not sure about naked pictures of yourself. That has caused trouble too. How about just in some sexy clothes? He evidently loves the way you look in certain clothes, and I'm sure he wouldn't want another guy to get hold of a naked picture of you either. But it defiantly not HOLY and in no way approved by GOD, I heard that the book, 50 shades of Gray " was sorta like that aimed at women. Was surprised at how many people I know had bought it. Maxie mac262(at)me(dot)com

    1. Thanks for commenting! :) Agreed on the sexy clothes pics. Naked kind of makes me cringe, lol, I'm just saying that there's nothing wrong with a wife giving her husband pictures of herself. Yes, I am not a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey...if I wouldn't be comfortable with my husband watching something like that, then I shouldn't be reading something like that. :) THANKS AGAIN for stopping by!! :)